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Celibacy, Body Builder Priest & Marriage
Celibate State Articles
It has been something of a revelation to me to read of the negative reaction of some of your readers – mostly women, it seems – to the position, backed my many centuries of Church teaching, that the celibate state is nobler than the married state.
I have particularly appreciated Salwa Bachar's and Marian Horvat's articles (
) dealing with the single celibate vocation, as opposed to the consecrated religious life. For as long as I can remember, married women have felt pity for unmarried women.
Evidently, it was something very important to them – to feel this pity – because now, when such articles take away their sense of superiority and the luxury of that pity and laud the nobility of the single, celibate state, these married women are angry. Marriage is still a sacrament and a holy institution.
No one has disputed that. You would think that that would be enough for them. But, no, they need to look down on single women. Now they can't and their pride can't abide it.
Body Building Priest
I would like to point out this priest, Steve Grunow: look at these two sexy pictures he posted. Isn’t that unbecoming for a priest and a potential temptation for women and gays?
More than 400 Mosques Opened in London
I support your stance against immigration, especially against Islamization, which is the worst fruit of it. Confirming what
you have written
in several articles, you may read
this news report
on the dramatic closing of 500 Catholic Churches in London while mosques are opened by the hundreds.
Therese of Lisieux & Margaret Sanger
Pope Leo XIII (1888): “Where a law is enacted contrary to reason, or to the eternal law, or to some ordinance of God, obedience is unlawful, lest, while obeying man, we become disobedient to God.” (
Yes! Yesterday I copied the Pope Leo XIII quote above for our heroic priest and men, and me, here at ICC/ICA... or wherever we can find them. Today you post
a similar quote
from the same real Pope.
Remember: this is the Pope of two devout Traditional Catholic famous young ladies (real ones) on opposite sides of the Atlantic in the 1890's,
St. Therese of the Child Jesus
, and Miss Margaret Louise Higgins (Margaret Sanger). The most known Saint of the 20th Century; and the other the author of
The Pivot of Civilization
, the seminal (pun) book on contraception and modern 'civilization' and founder of Planned Parenthood.
Two young Catholic souls in the 1890s, and both lovers of Truth and Beauty... yet... yet... one had
Katherine Hepburn Sr.
as a childhood friend and a town drunkard, socialist, agnostic 'father.' The
was a devout jeweler, and fisherman. In the five books I have read on St. Therese's family I do not recall one 'outside' of the family friend of Mr. Martins five daughters. Hmmm.
'The sins of the Fathers will live on to the third generation; the Blessings to the thousandth.'
Should I Marry This Man?
I appreciate your website very much. I have been reading and taking guidance from
some of your articles
. I would like to ask a question about my particular marriage situation.
The person I want to marry was married before (29 years ago) but had every intention of leaving his fiancée and getting a divorce very soon after the ceremony (which occurred in a non denominational christian church). He was using the marriage as a way to escape his home and his overbearing father. Also, he tried a few times to get out of the engagement (after he noticed that her mother and father were also very dominant), but he felt threatened by certain statements they made to him when he showed signs of backing out, and also by her father's and brother's aggressive nature.
He regrets and repents of this way he was (cowardly and deceptive). He was molested as a small child and was intent on never letting this come to be known due to irrational fears of being accused of being a potential abuser himself and because of the shame. He has since gone to counseling with a Catholic psychologist and been diagnosed with severe PTSD.
He has dealt with a lot including confronting his parents on their handling of the situation. The psychologist was astounded that he had never used drugs, alcohol or had other addictions to deal with the abuse, as it was very severe and never discussed or dealt with when it happened.
He dealt with life by choosing a profession where he could be away from home very extensively (workoholism), and thereby escape dealing with most of the dominant behavior of the in-laws and wife. He tried moving near several extended family during the marriage, thinking he could move in with them quickly and initiate a divorce but the fear of having to explain too much and having her father outside with a shotgun weakened his resolve each time.
They had 9 children. He has no way to prove his intention at the time of marriage except for veiled threats made to himself by his fiancé's mother, which she would certainly be reluctant to admit to today, and his parent's expressing their concern that he was not ready for marriage, and the fiancée's mother telling them that the marriage was going forward with or without them.
Reading a little about canon law and other traditional info online I am still wondering about his eligibility to marry. He was baptized at about 10 years old in a very fundamentalist baptist church.
about believer's baptism on the site. and his parent's and pastors beliefs were exactly "symbolic only" baptism. He has researched too and determined that, because of this, he was not validly baptized and, therefore, was conditionally baptized by a traditional priest a couple of years ago after he converted to Catholicism.
Any guidance would be appreciated.
There are two perspectives from which the situation of the gentleman you want to marry can be analyzed:
The religious-juridical aspect of his previous baptism and present-day marriage, that is, their validity before the Catholic Church;
The psychological profile of the person.
, although we are missing more specific data to evaluate the validity of his first baptism and present-day marriage, we believe that, considering the long period he has been living with his family and the number of children the couple had, the best thing to do is to preserve the family life and not to destroy it through a divorce or annulment.
This seems better for the stability of the family, the spouses and, principally, for the sake of the spiritual-emotional balance of the children. So, our suggestion is not to induce him to go through a process of annulment, but to maintain his first marriage, trying to convert his wife and children to the Catholic Faith.
Unfortunately, in this Conciliar Church he may easily find some priest who will tell him that he must annul his marriage and provide him the means to do so. However, we think that those who might take this initiative would have to answer to God for the harmful outcome of the life in that family.
, that is, the psychological profile of the gentleman, we have to say that, considering the data you gave us, the person does not take seriously the institution of marriage, but used it to escape problems he was experiencing with his father. Also, as you reported, to this day he continues in his marriage because of fear. This sketches the picture of a very superficial man without character who most probably will not take seriously a marriage with you as well.
Thus, our advice to you is not to marry him. Instead, try to convince him to convert his wife and children to the Catholic Faith.
We hope this may be of some assistance to you.
TIA correspondence desk
Posted March 13, 2018
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